Shocking confession:how my husband pushed me into sleeping with other men
Dear Bunmi,
I’ve been married to my husband for over
20 years and we have four lovely children.
He’s always had series of affairs that I’ve
lost count. I’ve stopped talking to him about
them and when friends did, he told them
smugly that he must be doing something
right or I would have left.
He says his affairs are really for the sex and
he would never leave me for another
woman. Big deal!
I’m quite an attractive woman myself and
still wear a size 14 dress. I have a good job
and dress well and recently I started looking
at other men the way my husband might
look at other women and wondered what it
would be like to have sex with them. You
know what?
My husband was right, you can have good
sex without getting emotionally involved as
I’ve since found out. I don’t know if he
suspects anything, but lately he’s been
showing signs of being jealous, why should
he have all the fun?
Halimat, by e-mail.
Dear Halimat,
Are you really happy sleeping with another
man who is probably also married? You
tolerated your husband’s affairs because he
assured you the women with whom he had
his casual, uncaring sex meant nothing to
him. Rather, he used them for sexual
variety and to maintain his self-image as a
stud who could pull the girls despite having
a wife and four kids. Because you must
have felt sure of your husband’s love, his
affairs didn’t seem to be a threat to your
marriage.
To a woman, who had always been faithful
to her husband, you’re playing with fire by
suddenly sleeping with another man in your
middle age - you’re putting your pride, your
self confidence and your commitment to the
future of your marriage at stake. Your
husband might suspect your infidelity, but
what happens if any of your children finds
out? Continue being the supportive wife and
mother you’ve always been. Talk to your
husband to slow down. Don’t worry; age
would soon do that for him!
Created at 2016-06-12 22:16:46
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